When life complaints help.
Complaining is helpful, scientists say. We will tell you how complaining about problems will help you overcome an emotional crisis and find the strength to move on.
The authors of The Art of Dreaming, Barbara Sher and Annie Gottlieb, believe that you should not hide your displeasure and try to keep everything to yourself. Allow yourself to throw out all the negativity, the main thing is to learn how to do it right.
when you feel bad.
- Select a problem
Highlight one situation that worries you the most. It can be anything: a lack of money, a deterioration in relations with loved ones, or a conflict in a minibus. Think that this is a very serious obstacle to your goal.
- Visualize
If you find it difficult to concentrate on one thing, write down your thoughts about the trouble on a piece of paper. For the best effect, write seriously, sadly, or tragically.
- Make fun of yourself
Move forward little by little in your reflections. Start making fun of the situation, do not be afraid to laugh at yourself and your negative emotions. Give yourself free rein and torment problems as you want — the more cynicism, sarcasm and exaggeration, the better.
Why is it effective
Cher and Gottlieb believe that in this way a person can throw out all the negativity that accumulates over time. This will help make room for energy and positive emotions. Psychologists call this method the power of negative thinking.
They compare the release of negative emotions with raising a child: if you allow the kid to play pranks and throw out energy, then later he will be assiduous and obedient during a boring business.
Method criticism: do complaints really help
- Unlike Cher and Gottlieb, psychologist Jeffrey Laure is confident that constant baseless complaints and whining negatively affect the physical condition of a person and his environment. The scientist believes that venting anger is as ineffectual as expressing emotionally in a closed, empty room.
- He is supported by the scientist Stephen Parton. He claims that negative thoughts give rise to negative thoughts. The more a person is fixated on problems, the more his brain is fixated on possible future negativity. The result is constant depression and sadness.
- Due to complaints in the body, the stress hormone cortisol rises. Parton believes that it harms learning, impairs memory and impairs immunity. Thus, a person exposes himself to health problems and risks getting chronic diseases.