MOSCOW, April 14, Alina Kravtsova. The star of the TV series «Mazhory», «Former», «Kidney» played a major role in the project «Live Life» from the creators of the hit «Kept Women». The new tape is about manipulative relationships and abuse. One of the first beauties of Russian cinema, Lyubov Aksenova, spoke in an interview about her personal experience of painful love.
— Relationship manipulation is a fairly new topic for us. How relevant is it?
— Human relations — the topic is always relevant. Both cinema and literature deal primarily with this.
«Live life» speaks openly about this with the viewer.
There is a story about lost love, which is less and less common in the outside world, as Dasha Moroz accurately said at the premiere. People have become more closed and more often move away from each other. It is interesting for the viewer to follow the development of the plot and to recognize himself in some way. 
— Have you also had an experience of relationships with unconscious manipulation?
— Yes, it was. Fortunately, not as painful as the character Anna, which I played. It is important to work out such an experience with a specialist — a psychologist or psychotherapist. Or at least talk to friends and family.
— What were the manipulations?
A person could disappear for a week without any reason. I constantly felt guilty. But now I understand that this is a typical state of the victim in such a relationship.
Any imperfection on my part caused accusations. I constantly worried that something was wrong with me. Everything was based on the fear of losing the relationship. «And thank God!» — I understand now. But then, due to her youth and inner immaturity, she experienced anxiety and doubted herself. 
— How did you get out of this?
— Lucky! (Laughs.) I grew up and at some point I realized that at that time it was just such an experience that I needed. Because a psychologically healthy person will not tolerate manipulation.
— Did you read special literature to better understand yourself at that moment? After all, before there were so many coaches on the Internet.
— Manipulators are conscious: they study the relevant literature, visit clubs, learn from coaches. But often a person behaves this way unconsciously — because of upbringing, internal fears, or because he does not know how to do it differently.
I did not read special books to understand the situation. My friends and parents supported me: they insisted that manipulative relationships were not the norm. 
— With your husband Pavel it turned out quite differently. Why?
— I think, thanks to the desire to go towards each other, to understand and hear the other.
— Do you think you need a «pepper», a drive in a relationship? Can you cause slight jealousy sometimes?
I'll draw an analogy with humor. Aerobatics, when it does not humiliate anyone and does not affect the personality. It's the same in relationships: it's unhealthy to get confirmation of your own worth using a partner.
If people flirt, tease each other — why not, it's great. Many positive emotions can be experienced at the same time.
—When you were preparing for your role in Without Me, you and your husband traveled apart to experience loneliness. How did you tune in to the image of the victim of the manipulator?
Enough personal experience. The preparation was connected primarily with the plasticity of the character, her manner of moving. Anna Boginskaya is very feminine, thin, she had to be so graceful, streamlined — like the element of water. Like tree branches that bend smoothly even in windy weather.
A choreography was developed for Anna that would emphasize her inner essence. I had to move like a little in the rhythm of the dance. 
— Why did you leave the blonde? It looked very impressive in the «Kidney»!
Anna is different. Although she is businesslike and a predator, she is very vulnerable and alive inside. White hair, a clear hairstyle — absolutely not about her. We even had wigs with long hair in natural shades during the auditions. But in the end we settled on a natural haircut.
— How do you like to be a blonde yourself? Has your attitude towards life changed?
— I like experimenting! Now I feel like a blonde, and if I feel like a brunette, I will repaint. In this sense, I found the perfect job — you can change for each project without remorse. 
—It feels like you're always positive. What can make you sad?
— I like to experience different emotions. I used to try to get rid of sadness, but then I realized that this is also one of the feelings, along with joy and gratitude.
However, since discouragement is a mortal sin, one should try to «live a happy life.» This is a great gift. Happiness for me has a lot to do with peace of mind. If I'm nervous, this is a marker that I'm tired, so in such cases I go to bed. 
As they say, the morning is wiser than the evening. When you wake up and look at the same situation, it is already easier to find a solution. But it took a lot of time to realize this, my husband helped a lot in this.
— And what is «living life» for you? What do you get real pleasure from?
— From inner peace. The main thing is to be in harmony with yourself.
The series premiered on the Start online cinema service on April 13.