MOSCOW, June 16, Tatyana Ryzhkova. Recently, Sofia Martynova, the face of a famous French fragrance company, was hit by a stalker. An inadequate fan hacked social networks, leaked intimate photos of the model to the Internet and began to write threatening letters to her. Who else had a chance to deal with psychopaths and how to act in such situations — in the material.
Reverse side of a fan
A certain Danil Filippov turned to Sofia Martynova on the social network. The model did not answer, but he recognized her phone from somewhere. He managed to please the girl, and a relationship began between them — he flew to Paris, rented an apartment and insisted that Sofia move in with him.
But after a few weeks, the relationship changed: Danil accused Sophia of treason when he found her old photos with a former lover. He demanded that she pass a lie detector test, scandalized. Then he hacked into her social networks, published intimate photos and videos that he secretly filmed, tried to convince the model's agents that she was engaged in escort and prostitution.
The girl did not make the story public for several months: she was afraid for herself and relatives. However, she decided to speak anyway. Other victims contacted her almost immediately, for example, model Nastya Bers, whom Danil met in 2021, their relationship ended in a scandal.
Now Sofia Martynova does not work in Russia, but she is in touch with a lawyer and is going to file a complaint with the police.
Not an isolated case
Alena Shishkova, glamor model and ex-wife of rapper Timati, has been facing stalkers for years. In 2018, she even hired bodyguards because of an obsessive fan from Belarus who took out a loan to fly to Moscow and see the object of adoration. I spent three days in the hotel lobby, where Shishkova's office and beauty salon were located.
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“Quite often, someone tries to meet or get a telephone conversation, convincing that this is very important for me and for him,” Shishkova said in an interview with. — I take it easy. Usually, after several unsuccessful attempts, everything ends. The real stalking has been going on for several years and is causing concern. The very nature of communication is very unpleasant — calls, attacks through social networks. Moreover, the parents also get it, plus the persecution, even attempts to break into the apartment.
The model admits: she had to hide, and call the police, and provide herself with constant protection. ;All I can do in a situation like this is not to make contact. And hope that someday the person himself will fall behind, «adds Shishkova.
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Actresses Irina Pegova and Elizaveta Arzamasova became victims of such persecutors. However, it is not only women who suffer. For more than eight years, the king of the Russian pop scene, Philip Kirkorov, could not get rid of Tatyana Pushina, who not only guarded him at restaurants, but also created joint photos in Photoshop, declaring that she was the secret wife of the artist. Pushina considers herself similar to Alla Pugacheva. crop-width=»600″ data-crop-height=»405″ data-source-sid=»rian_photo» class=»lazyload» width=»1920″ height=»1296″ decoding=»async» />
By the way, Pugachev was once also pursued by a stalker. Anatoly Nagiev was a serial rapist, he was released in 1978 and began to kill. I dreamed of getting to the singer Sofia Rotaru. In 1980, he was convicted and shot.
The law is not written for stalkers
As such, there is no concept of persecution in the criminal and administrative codes of Russia, the human rights activist, a retired judge and a judicial lawyer Vladimir Komsolev.
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“By stalking, we usually mean a situation where one person follows another, intimidates, threatens, but without physical pressure. But it is almost impossible to prosecute for this within the framework of the law,” says the lawyer. data-crop-ratio=»0.995348837209302″ data-crop-width=»600″ data-crop-height=»597″ data-source-sid=»» class=»lazyload» lazy=»1″ />
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«Dissemination of such information is punishable by administrative and criminal codes, and through the courts, one can not only stop such acts, but also receive compensation» ;, — the expert explains.
If information discrediting honor and dignity gets into social networks, resource owners are obliged to remove this content.
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“There are several criminal and civil offenses in the situation of Sofia Martynova. It has the right to demand the elimination of discrediting information from the owners of Internet resources. If she is refused, she needs to contact Roskomnadzor, who will oblige to remove the content and block it,” Komsolev notes.
According to him, the responsibility for Filippov is more than real.
How to act: advice from a psychologist
It is very difficult to distinguish a stalker from an ordinary admirer in the early stages of communication. If someone begins to actively write on social networks, obsessively offers to meet, this is already stalking, says psychologist Anna Levchenko. Such a person does not see other people's borders. -width=»600″ data-crop-height=»921″ data-source-sid=»» class=»m-vertical lazyload» lazy=»1″ />
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“Sometimes from the outside it may seem that such a violator of boundaries does not want anything bad,” the psychologist clarifies. — Well, for example, a young man says that he will pick up the girl after work, and at the same time does not accept refusal, does not want to hear that she has other plans. Or on the third day of the relationship, he persistently offers to move in, live together, get married. At the same time, her opinion is not taken into account.
Such stories are romanticized in society, Levchenko notes.
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“It is believed that women seem to crave such behavior that a man takes everything upon himself,” says the expert. «I had a client whose husband said, 'I'll decide whether she leaves me or not.' This is an extremely unhealthy level of control over a person.
The romanticization of stalking, treating obsessive people as «hotly in love» and «passionate» is a big problem. Largely because of this, cases of persecution receive little publicity: no one is in a hurry to blame a person who commits insanity because of «love».
Stalkers, the psychologist clarifies, are not only men. According to statistics, there are more of them, but a girl obsessed with a star and an abandoned wife pursuing her husband are also not uncommon.
According to Levchenko, any obsessive admirer can turn out to be a stalker.
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“The person shows some innocent signs of attention, for example, regularly gives gifts,” the psychologist continues. — But no one guarantees that in the next minute nothing will go wrong in his head. A lot of examples when fans killed, mutilated, mutilated their idols. I would not put boundaries here and say: “Oh, yes, this is just an obsessive fan, ha ha, let it be.” If you don’t like his behavior, immediately block and don’t give any hope.
Elementary politeness can be perceived by a stalker as a sign of attention, so it is important to discard manners and not be shy to speak directly, even harshly.
Not only stars become victims of persecution, the psychologist adds. At risk are not famous, but attractive and successful people who do not demonstrate that they are in a relationship. As well as those who do not know how to maintain personal boundaries, and romantics who tend to be fascinated by someone else's «passion».
Proactively protecting yourself from a stalker is a difficult task.
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“I would advise you not to show on social networks once again where and with whom you live, what school your children go to, where your spouse works,” Levchenko lists. — It is clear that for bloggers such recommendations are from the category of fiction: on the contrary, they seek to tell the entire Network about themselves. But then it is important to be in touch with loved ones, to meet children from school. And in case of danger, immediately contact law enforcement agencies.
Becoming a victim of a stalker, it is important to act quickly and competently, without panicking. Take a screenshot of messages, block a person on the Web, write a statement to the police. But talking heart to heart with the persecutor is not worth it.
And yet, Levchenko notes, it is important not to condemn the victims of stalking. : would you like to be in the place of the victim, says the psychologist. — And how a person should have prevented the situation. The main thing is not to become part of the crowd, which cares about someone else's dirty laundry.
Behind each such story are real people. It is very important to remember this. And if anyone is condemned, then the persecutor, not the victim.